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Bhavya Mathur's avatar

I love this so much, thank you

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Maanvi's avatar

Thanks for reading, you. :)

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Jamila Maryam's avatar

Hmm.... it's interesting....even more so from the other side of 40 , when I realise that there comes a time in our journey arcs when we realise how hollow our aspirations were....

Your journey from an awestruck 15 year old to patting yourself for becoming one is hopefully part of an ongoing longer journey. It takes us longer than that to evolve and understand feminism and even more challenging to extract our real inner self and soul from media inflicted larger than life images of successful women. Each person's choice has to be understood in the context of the person's situation and vision, not through reductionist generalizations.

A lot can be said about women's agency to honour their choices , the reality beneath both the cool women and traditional women that needs to be understood case- wise, not in some glibly generalised manner but that would churn out another piece by itself.

Hope as a fellow sister, you take the comment in the spirit of open discussion and not otherwise.

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Maanvi's avatar

Hi, thank you so much for reading and engaging! I agree that each person's choice needs to be understood in their context, and by no means do I mean to draw another binary between cool vs traditional women. I am pointing out that the discourse of trad wife is boring, and outdated because it says nothing new for what women's choices should look like. And indeed more reductionist than my essay was, I am sure. :)

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